Hair Fetish

I've noticed on these boards that words "hair fetish" seem to have some evil connotation.

Here's the Random House definition "Any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation."

Any man or woman that is turned on by hair, short OR long, breasts, legs, feet, biceps, abs, or rear ends has a fetish. The guy who is turned on by a 'big booty' has a fetish. The woman who gets aroused from looking at big biceps has one too. For some reason, fetishism for hair seems to be placed on men who like short hair, but whether you're turned on by short or long hair or even no hair, it's a fetish.

I'd guess that most people posting on these boards are aroused by hair in some way. Unless you're a stylist, that's probably why you're posting here. I'm sure some people will say that doesn't apply to them, so it's probably just the rest of us.

As long as you don't go around cutting people's hair or forcing them to grow it, having a fetish is perfectly healthy. Something should turn you on.

I'm aware that there are people who come on these boards and make up stories. They hope that the responses will get them aroused. I can understand frowning on that, but as long as the people making the responses contribute something helpful and stimulating, I don't see it as a problem.

So, I've brought up the dirty little underbelly of a website devoted to discussing hair. I don't see it as dirty or wrong, but some do. Some probably don't want this idea discussed.

I echo your opinion.
As long as short-haired fans aren't going around forcing people to cut theirs and long-hair fans aren't beating the scissors and clippers into plowshares, what harm is there?

As long as we remain respectful of one another, I find that discussing our "fetish" for hair quite healthy. Though I think the word has taken on a bad connotation in most circles.

We can only gain from being respectful toward one another and not hiding who we are. Call me the male Pollyanna, but I see these boards as positive things.

Most of the people here have opinions and aren't afraid to voice them. I think that is totally healthy. As for the people who make things up in an attempt to get a rise out of others... we should probably ignore them and hope they'll go away.

[QUOTE]'d guess that most people posting on these boards is aroused by hair in some way.[/QUOTE]

No matter what are views on almost any subject, it's a natural tendency to think that other people share our opinions and feelings.

Sometimes they do, and sometimes they don't.

IMO (and very simplistically), a fetish is a problem only when it over-writes mutual consent.

Fetishes?

Anything kinky, nasty, dirty or sexy I usually like!

Actually, to be serious, I have to agree with the others. As long as the fetish, hair or otherwise, is between mutually consenting adults, who cares, it is their business. Everyone has their likes, dislikes, preferences, what gets them "going" and so forth!

Actually that is probably good if used properly!

I thought that having a fetish meant being so "into" that particular thing that it impedes your judgement or capacity to enjoy....ie, i once read about a man who had a foot fetish and could not "get off" unless feet were somehow involved.

I don't believe anyone here is at this point ( I mean as far as hair goes)

jacqui

That's only in extreme cases Jacqui.
Everyone has fetishes, that is things they like better in regards to fashion, hair , clothes, even body types. We all have some fetishes. Most of us just aren't anti-social or too weird with it.

[QUOTE]'d guess that most people posting on these boards are aroused by hair in some way. [/QUOTE]

I come here to learn about ways to take care of my hair and to learn more about styles and products, and to share my experiences about the same with others.

Because there are nice and interesting people here, I also post on non-hair forums that interest me.

But aroused by hair? No.

Elissa

Hi,
I have a hair fetish, and I'm not really sure where it came from. I never really thought about it much until recently, when I decided that it was about time to chop off my hair (it's been long for years). So far, I have been cutting it gradually, and it's now shoulder length. But every time I think about cutting it short, I get physically excited. I thought it was kind of freaky, but I guess I'm not alone. I'm still not sure I have the guts to cut it all off, but I am finally dedicated to real change. What do you think?

[QUOTE=newhair4me] Hi,
I have a hair fetish, and I'm not really sure where it came from. I never really thought about it much until recently, when I decided that it was about time to chop off my hair (it's been long for years). So far, I have been cutting it gradually, and it's now shoulder length. But every time I think about cutting it short, I get physically excited. I thought it was kind of freaky, but I guess I'm not alone. I'm still not sure I have the guts to cut it all off, but I am finally dedicated to real change. What do you think?
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You enjoy it and it doesn't harm anyone, so go with it. Be happy you have something that gets you excited. Cut more if that's what works for you. A little at a time or a lot. Try a wig if you're not ready.

Thanks for responding! I was starting to feel a bit freakish (I'm a fairly normal person otherwise...). So, why do you like short-haired women?

I think as far as most of us here are concerned when someone goes beyond the groups comfort level they get labeled! If you are fairly new here you won't know about the guy that prompted the fetish statements...but beleive me... you can tell!

How refreshing, for once, to see the subject of fetish being discussed in a non-hysterical manner. If it turns people on, whether it be the texture, abundance, sparsity, absence or sheer style of hair, then what's the problem? At times such as this, we need as much love going round as is humanly possible, and so I welcome the use of the word "fetish" in a positive and unthreatening way.

I definitely have a hair fetish, much like newhair4me. I love to get my haircut and get excited about thinking about cutting my hair short. I think it's because I care so much about my hair and love anybody that plays and takes care of my hair.

Do I think I'm weird? Not really.

I have a hair fetish, related to short hair and the process of getting there (whether on myself or other women). I don't like to tell people, though, not even friends, because I fear bad reactions. As it is, if I tell friends I prefer short-haired women, they wonder why, and sometimes treat me like a freak for even that :-( .
But then again, I've been known to accuse most of the world, collectively, of having a long hair fetish. . . which I think is kind of weird and sometimes creepy, so I guess it kind of goes both ways. . .

Well, we all need to do what we feel comfortable doing when it comes to sharing our fetish with friends and family.

I'm totally open with my wife, so she knows and keeps her hair short. Fortunatley, she likes it that way.

As for my friends, they know I prefer short haired women, but I doubt they know how deep that runs. Mostly, they write it off as part of my enduring crush on Dorothy Hammill, a hold over from my days as a punk or just me being different.

I once told a friend about my desire to cut the hair of a girl we knew and he looked at me as if I'd committed murder. Kind of made me hold off telling most other people.

I personally enjoy getting my hair buzzed, which is fairly unique where I live, but when people ask why I tell them that with hair as thick as mine, my head would be 300 degrees in the summer (which is true). I don't share the rest of the information, that it is extremely fun for me to watch a woman get her hair cut short or to get mine cut off.

I doubt society would understand, which is why I'm thankful this board is here to talk about all of this stuff.

I know what you mean Kuroneko and Headboy. When I first got my long hair-(past my waist)- cut into an above the shoulders bob cut I was scared but it was a great thrill too. And I did like the way it looked, it was styled well.-(I did go to a very good salon in Chicago where I was living at that time)-.

I gradually just went shorter with my hair to it's present short length pixie style of cut.. Each time I got my haircut it was a thrill, the adrelin would just rush in me as I entered the salon. I still get that sort of energy rush when I go and get my hair trimmed even though my hair is so short I don't actually get much cut. Still I love being in the beauty salon, there is just something I really love about that. To me it is money that is very well spent. I enjoy the experience of it.

I haven't ever had my hair buzzed close to the scalp. I have thought of doing that and I have seen any number of women with hair that short or even with a shaved head, but I just haven't ever brought myself to having that done. I am sure it would be a thrill, and I don't think I would look that bad but I just have never done that. Maybe someday.

Tina, if you ever do decide to shave your head, get a hat. The look can be cool, but the sunburn is evil.

I get the rush you described every time I sit in a barber's chair or go to a salon. Maybe it's the smell of the chemicals and the sound of the Osters popping to life.

I have no idea, but it is a great feeling.

The thing that rally fasinates me about this whole thing is where do these feelings come from. I grew up in the 60-70s and my mother was totally in control of my haircuts till I was about 14. So I had short back and sides when everyone was growing their hair long like the Beatles/Stones etc. I used to hate getting my haircut and wonder if that was the genesis of this fascination with hair and cutting. I have a friend who can't remeber anything untoward in her youth but she would love to have a short clipper cut in a barbers. Where does that come from ??? I'd like to hear anyone else theories

Who knows?
I actually loved having long hair too. And I liked having a bob cut and I like my hair in a short crop pixie now. I liked each style when I was wearing it. I just like different hairstyles and fashions in hair, jewelry, and clothes.

[QUOTE=spud] The thing that rally fasinates me about this whole thing is where do these feelings come from. I grew up in the 60-70s and my mother was totally in control of my haircuts till I was about 14. So I had short back and sides when everyone was growing their hair long like the Beatles/Stones etc. I used to hate getting my haircut and wonder if that was the genesis of this fascination with hair and cutting. I have a friend who can't remeber anything untoward in her youth but she would love to have a short clipper cut in a barbers. Where does that come from ??? I'd like to hear anyone else theories
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Most adult behavior results from something in childhood, but some of it may just be the way people are wired. As a pre-teen, I was first attracted to Cheryl Ladd and Cheryl Tiegs, but not girls my own age. It wasn't until a girl in my own class cut her very long hair into a short Dorothy Hamill cut that I was attracted to a girl my own age. I never had any interest in hair before that, but it has been the biggest attraction for me since.

There's nothing in my family that I can think would lead to this, and I don't remember any hair cutting experience. I don't know where I got it, but then why does someone have a foot fetish or breast fetish?

I have no idea where it comes from in other people, but for me, it stems from a continuing crush on Dorothy Hammill. Couple that with the rush I get from getting a buzzcut and the fact that I find ears and necks enticing and I'm sunk.

Watching a woman get her hair cut is a vicarious thrill for me that I don't deny. I find dramatic change a good thing and I, personally, enjoy the look of short hair on women.

The buzz cut thing for me probably stems from years of parochial school and weekly haircuts. I suppose I'm different from my former classmates in that I enjoyed the feeling of getting clippered.

I grew my hair long when I got into high school and began attending public school. Enter Ms. Hammill. I loved the way she looked when she spun on the ice and how perfect her hair looked when she was done.

Then most every girl I knew got the same haircut.

From there this fetish took on a life of its own. Most of the girls I dated before I got married had short hair and I'd go with them to the stylist. I hung out with punks and mods in my late teens, most of the girls in those circles had short to very short hair.

I guess it's just part of who I am and not born from some emotional trauma or rejection by long-haired women. I've always chalked it up to me being me.

Anyone else?

My husband likes my long hair curly, so I do that for him. I am heavily tattooed also and my husband has a bit of a thing for tattoos on women too.
I like guys with long hair, my husband hair is a little long not too long. He looks good in his hair cut I must admit.

I guess the other interesting/strange thing about this fetish is how it is split between the sexes. In "general" its guys that like watching/cutting and girls who like it being cut. I once read somewhere that cutting someones hair is a domination thing. I'm personally not real comfortable with that spin on things as I think of in a more artistic way. A lady friend of mine definitely has submissive feelings associated with the haircut fetish but no real explanations. As head shaving has been used as method of shaming women in the past I guess there is a link but hopefully that at the far end of the fetish spectrum.

So Tina et.al can you remeber any event in childhood like a forced or bad short cut that may have been the genisis of your feelings ????