Stylists supportive of long hair, or not?

My (former) hair stylist always made slightly snide comments about how long my hair had gotten since the last time she had seen me.  I haven't been to a hardresser for well over a year now as I have never had a haircut that I liked.  Long + curly hair seems to be an issue lots of stylists just can't handle.

Now that I do s+ds and micro trims my hair (and ego) are a lot happier and healthier

The girl who cut my hair was always really good about me growing it and always complimented it's length. When I had to get another layer to get rid of some chlorene/sun damage she persuaded me not to go as short as I wanted.

Now I do it myself because it's easier and cheaper.

My experience with stylists overall has not been good. Most stylists commented on how thin and dry my hair is and encouraged me to keep it short. I had one good stylist years ago who cut it short (at my request) and told me I had beautiful hair and that if I wanted to grow it long, I should do so. So I guess it's good I had that one positive experience......oh, and PurpleBubba is always so supportive, he's a stylist, right?

Mostly, no.  But then again, it is their professional interest to keep customers coming in.  And what easier way than to push shorter hair styles that have a shorter 'shelf life' so to speak and that requires more updating.  And I am wondering if it is less work for them to simply cut to a particular shorter style rather than work with the  longer hair curl and structure.  Saw one episode of 'What Not to Wear' and this blond girl insisted on keeping her length and the stylist Nick ended up doing a great job shaping it.  But he complained about all the work he had to do!

However, there were long-haired riendly stylsts out there willing to work with longer hair, l might consider going to them.

It seemed every time I went in for a trim I cut way more cut off than I wanted.  There was one I really like who told me " I cant glue it back on, so we will cut a little.  If you want more off, we can always cut it again." I like that philosophy, but she moved away.  I found another who was good the first time I saw him , but on the second trim......he messed up big time.  NOW, no trims at all for me for a long long time.  So I dont think most of them really are supportive.  Not the ones I've met anyhow.

My hairdresser is a mix. When I see her she will exclaim over how long and pretty my hair hair is but she would prefer for me to trim it more often and get more cut off (only an inch!!??? What

I have only had to "fire" one hairstylist and that was over a year ago.  She admired my patience for maintaining my hair so well, but would always tell me that my hair was in need of an update.  When she took off 3 inches when I asked for a 1 inch trim, she got the boot and I never went back again!

The stylist I see now is great, although I do see her often.  She respects what I want for my hair.  Butttt......last time I was there she informed me she is moving to Ontario in May.  She has invited me in to meet a new girl, but I haven't went in to see her yet.\

~Den

My stylist has been very supportive. She only trims exactly what I ask her to.

I think it's important to find a stylist that you like and stick with them. I also believe in tipping well if your stylist does a good job!

I think hair stylists listen mostly when you make it clear exactly what you want.  If you know what you want you won't be pressured by them.

But in my experience, most hair stylists do pressure you to cut it off.  Shorter styles require more maitanence haircuts to keep the style.  But longer styles do not require as much haircuts if hair is kept healthy.  My hairstylist wanted me coming in all the time for trims even when it was long....so I think they just have a business to run and do what is necessary to keep customers coming back.

But from a stand point that I have ruined my hair being really stupid....my hairstylists have helped me fix my hair.  So...I don't think they are always bad....they just are running a business like everyone else.  I think hairstylists listen when the customer is VERY clear exactly what they want.

My usual hairdresser has waist length hair and is always drawing attention to it by throwing it over her shoulder, wrapping it around her neck etc.  She was the one who encouraged me to grow out a short layered style and I'm really pleased about that. 

BUT  I never see anyone in her salon with hair much longer than shoulder length.  When mine reached that length she started to make comments about it needing more shape.  I'm still trying to grow out disgusting hair dye, so am carrying on with trims.  But when the dye has all gone, I'm going to grow it a few more inches. 

Another girl did my hair recently because my usual hairdresser was away.  She was excellent and put a lot of effort into it.  However, her own hair was short.  When I mentioned long hair, she was VERY forthright about how she doesn't think it looks good on people.

I think there is a lot of truth in what people say about hairdressers protecting their income.  Mine wasn't happy when I stopped having it dyed and made lots of comments that would have swayed a lot of women into using dye again.  She's given up now though!

Another girl did my hair recently.

My usual hairdresser has waist length hair and is always drawing attention to it by throwing it over her shoulder, wrapping it around her neck etc.  She was the one who encouraged me to grow out a short layered style and I'm really pleased about that. 

BUT  I never see anyone in her salon with hair much longer than shoulder length.  When mine reached that length she started to make comments about it needing more shape.[/QUOTE]

Well, doesn't that say a lot?  If she really believed what she said, why would she have waist-length hair?