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Why do dark skin brothers catch so much hell about their hair texture? Although most Africans are dark or brown skin with coarse hair. Here in America it is seen as "nappy or bad hair". Light skin brothers with the "good hair" are seen a good looking. That's not cool!
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hey BiggMike, not all light skin brothers and sisters have "good hair". trust me, i'm light and my hair is nappy. i use to get beatings to comb my hair when i was a child
. but i see you posted this thread a while ago so i know you the answer to your question.
Why do dark skin brothers catch so much hell about their hair texture? Although most Africans are dark or brown skin with coarse hair. Here in America it is seen as "nappy or bad hair". Light skin brothers with the "good hair" are seen a good looking. That's not cool!
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hey BiggMike, not all light skin brothers and sisters have "good hair". trust me, i'm light and my hair is nappy. i use to get beatings to comb my hair when i was a child. but i see you posted this thread a while ago so i know you the answer to your question.
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correction. you just posted this. i thought i read the month of march there.
I have had a very hard time in my life just being a 6'4, 250 pound Black MAN. People take one look at me and stereotype me.
They don't know that I am college educated.
They don't know that I'm on the Deans list at my University.
They don't know that I am in the National Honor Society.
They don't know that I have always had a job since I was 13 years old.
They don't know that I am very spiritally connected to God. They don't know that I respect nature.
They don't know that I respect all foreign cultures and races.
However,...........I'm not Eurocentric. I have African American Pride, is there anything wrong with that?
Americans naturally want to put some one in a box and label them. If they can't label you, they reject you completely by employment discrimination, GENDER discrimination, and racial discrimination, and overall, Emasculation of males. I had one white woman tell me to shut up in one of my sociology classes. We were having an open discussion of race and gender issues. I spoke of how Black MEN are constantly marginalized and our women are put on this high platto above us. The woman became very angry with me for telling the truth. She said Black men make more money and have more employment oppurtunities than Black women. I looked at her like she was retarded. How can she believe this when most of the Black men are going to jail, becoming homosexual because of emascalation, going crazy, being rejected from society and White corporate America, can't find a job with their college degrees, and their own women degrading them every chance they get in media.
I know how this why white woman could believe I was wrong. Could it be that she is not living in America as a Black MAN? Could it be that a White woman is the last person in America to really understand what No Freedom is?
Why would a white woman get angry with me for saying this? Is it because she was guilty of it or just did not want to hear the truth? Not all white people are racist, and not all racist are White men, but some are white women. Let the truth be told, it hurts but it's true. White men get black for many racist things, but they are not alone.
I had to say this because I was really hurt by this White woman who told me to shut up when I voiced my point of view about MY own RACE.
Think about the topic of this conversation....... Dark Skin Brothers
[/QUOTE]ahhh real talk I like your big vocab i'll be using them in my writting
Vocabulary? 
What about the topic?
I have had a very hard time in my life just being a 6'4, 250 pound Black MAN. People take one look at me and stereotype me.
They don't know that I am college educated.
They don't know that I'm on the Deans list at my University.
They don't know that I am in the National Honor Society.
They don't know that I have always had a job since I was 13 years old.
They don't know that I am very spiritally connected to God. They don't know that I respect nature.
They don't know that I respect all foreign cultures and races.
However,...........I'm not Eurocentric. I have African American Pride, is there anything wrong with that?
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Ohhh, Bigg MIke I'm think I'm in luvvvvv You sound like a dream and definitely a "role model" of sorts to some of our African American brothas.
On the real, I sooo feel you on the stereotype thing. My husband is a dark chocolate, 6'2 and 200lbs and he also wears his hair shaved. Sometimes I'm amazed at the "looks" he gets when we're out. Little old white ladies wanting to "clutch their purse" ya know. Its sad but true that black men are judged on appearance w/o people getting to know who they really are. He's a college educated professional, church going, loving father, devoted husband and GREAT provider for his family.
Push on my brotha. And don't be discouraged by people like the white woman in your class. People fear what they don't understand and take offense at the truth.
[QUOTE=300 degreez]im dark skined and i have very good hair but that probaly cause im mixed with domincan and indian but mostly black and women or girls they dont always like all light skin people cause im only 13 and everywhere i go some older woman either staring at me sometime when i in the mall some older will even aproach me until they findout my age but if they younger then 17 then we would date but not know cause i got a wifey 300[/QUOTE]
I don't understand a word you just said Can we get some punctuation please?
Nah, but seriously...what's up with the good hair/bad hair stuff? What is good hair? Black people really need to back up off this kind of labeling for real. We don't need to give it any credence at all
None. Saying "Yeah, I have good hair" is only feeding into the lie. Good hair, is HEALTHY hair of any type--its not good simply b/c the curl texture is looser or whatever. I know you are only 13, but dude its time to drop that mess.
When people say that my son or daughter have that "good hair" I cringe and say, Yes, they have healthy hair. It is our own people that do it. Nobody else. I don't hear white or any other race of people saying-- yeah she has good hair! It really shows the level of understanding and maturity the person has making comments like that. It really is ignorance. I'm sorry to go on and on, but this issue seriously bothers me.
I think I've been on the boards a lil too long today-- I'm snappin' at people and stuff
