hate short hair

omg i had a horrible hair disaster. i usually go to the salon for my cuts. this time my hair was to the middle of my back, its curly, thick and puffy. I asked my mom to add layers to it to thin it out a bit, she''s usually good at hair and used to cut hair. Problem is my hair was thinner in the front because it used to get pulled when i tied it from how heavy it was. she ended up cutting my hair in the front at middle of ear level (all of the hair in front). i looked horrible. i cried so much, so i told her to chop the rest off too. now i had a bob. clever me made a mistake and let my sister add a layer to the bob, she made the same mistake my mother made and cut the front way shorter. i felt horrible.
to top it off i just got engaged, and have been fighting to keep my self esteem up when i feel so ugly and angry because of my hair. I''m getting married next summer and i need to grow my hair so bad. i do conditioning treatments literally every week, but i need my hair to come out faster. i am scared of those herbs they mess up your body, i wish there was a fast way.
on top of how ugly i feel my hair is, it reminds me of how my hair looked when i was little. my mom used to cut it short so she wouldnt have to deal with combing and styling. i wasnt outspoken but i remember being sad because other girls used to boast about their hair and mine was short, puffy. thats why i''ve always felt its a competition, i feel very behind. i know it sounds horrible. and i feel angry at myself, regretful, and i seriously hate the do.
wheew felt good to let it out. by the way if anyone wants to cut their hair, always do it professionaly i dont care how good the person is!

oh my goodness. I think we all need a reminder like that sometimes. Thanks so much for your free spirited positiveness and healing words.

It's probably the circumstances of it that have you so upset. It's like a flashback to your childhood, when your mother did whatever she wanted with your hair. So you need to take control away from her. Go to a professional and choose something that looks nice to you. Even if it's shorter than you would originally have wanted, the fact you're taking control of how it looks should help you feel at least a bit better. If you find, even after that, you don't like the way it looks, just work on trying different styles as it grows to find out which ones do look good. And definitely don't let your mother do your hair again, as it's likely you'll hate anything she does with it, just because of your feelings of awkwardness as a child.

Thanks for your reply. I think theres truth to what you're saying. But most of my troubles right now are in getting it long so it doesnt puff, and for my wedding. Although i will never let anyone but the professionals do my hair, and the way i want.

I know how you feel. Its very frustrating. I'm sure you must be furious, dont expect to get over it soon, you can never forget it because you will remember it when you style, wash , and look at your hair. You cant "get over it " like some people say, it takes time. Just accept it, i dont now about your spirituality, but i tell myself god makes everything happen for a reason, he had to have something to do with my hair cut too.. there's a good reason for everything, we just dont always know it. And seriously as soon as i accepted my hair the way it is, i feel better, stop remembering how it looked before. Make the best of it. I havent trimmed my hair either, i cant trust anyone to even do that, and i know that the mistakes in it will still show when it grows out, but i will risk it and see. I just cant handle a milimeter being cut off of it again. I need to keep whatever i can grow for my fiance, wedding and sanity. Now i'm on multivitamins, biotin and flax seed oil. I dont know if they're helping. I massage it daily, and try to love it. Hey if you dont like it at least you'll never wonder what you would look like in short hair! You'll always appreciate when your hair is long!
Good luck, and thanks for sharing!!

HI Rosebud..I think Kuroneko is right...You should be in contro of your hairstyle. Maybe take a picture to a really good stylist and do something that you will like to look at in a mirror. I have some issues with my hair length too. However, a few years back I cut it really short and enjoyed it for the time that it took to grow back out.

As far as your wedding goes, No worries about having it as long as you want. your stylist can put in an updo piece if you want it to be long and put up. If you want to wear it down,. they can put a temporary hairpiece for a gorgeous long look. Check out bride magazines, most of the elaborate dos are done with additional hairpieces.

Good luck and enjoy your hair.

jacqui

I am working on embracing my hair as it is...and i feel alot better about myself. Hey its nice to try out short too, it has its own attitude. The hard part was getting over HOW it happened. Thank you so much for sharing, i feel so much better.

omg, i completely know how you and katie feel. i practically have the same situation as katie.

yesterday i went to the salon because my little sister wanted to get her hair cut. my mom kept forcing me to just get my hair cut since i''m already here. i kept telling her no, and then the salon lady said the same things as my mom, and also saying how my hair has no volume, it doesn''t look nice, all this mean stuff. ( my hair was long just a few inches above my but, dark dark brown, with side bangs. I personally and alot of other people and the girls at my school really liked my hair.) because of their persistance, i went with the lady to get my hair washed and cut. i ended up with hair just past my shoulders, with front bangs. it does not frame my face at all, and looks even worst. my sister''s looks nice and now her hair is longer than mine! and just like katie, my school pictures are coming up, in fact, they''re this tuesday! and the school dance is next week too. i am really upset,and have just been looking through a whole bunch of different hair sites for tips and advice. what i''m planning on doing is taking alot of vitamins, onlly eating proper healthy foods, and of course lots of exercise, and rest. i really hope and pray this works, and that all of our hairs grow out soon! i want my long long hair back!!

i am relly sorry, espicialy cuz your wedding is coming up. i dont have much advice but i hope it gets long enuf.

hai sister i am vijay haircareadvicer and messur


use almond oil for better result

For Density:-
1.Add Castor oil with coconut oil(100+100ml).apply with gentle mage.

2.Take White yoke from Egg.Apply ur Scalp leave 30min before wash ur hair.

3.Curd is a moisturieser. Apply ur Scalp leave 30min before wash ur hair.

For Dandruff:-

1.Squeeze lemon and take lemon juice. Apply ur Scalp leave 30min before wash ur
hair.

2.Take White Vinegar 50ml. Apply ur Scalp leave 30min before wash ur hair.


For Lice:-
1.Spread Tulsi leaves on ur pillow before go to bed.keep head on Tulsi
leaves.

For YoungGreyHair:-

1. Add Castor oil with coconut oil(100+100ml).apply with gentle mage.

2. Eat iron content food or syrup.

To do this:-
1.Apply Natural Henna by paste format.leave 30min before wash ur hair.

2.Fold ur hair end with hair band. Dont use pins and clips for folding.

3.Eat atleast one egg or protein content food daily.

Dont do this:-

1.Dont dry ur hair by hair dryer oftenly.

2.Dont Brush ur hair with moisture.

3.Dont cut ur hair oftenly or improperly.

Because Straight cut makes Density, V cut makes long, Oval makes normal level



General Advice:-

Maintain long hair. Because the body will take protein from hair at the time of
Sick or illness. because the hair contains protein in the form of karotine.this
is the reason for mothers hair falling after birth of child. So plz maintain atleast
Hair length between Shoulder length to Waist length(50-60cm

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