[QUOTE=Rod]When someone says, "I'm getting my hair cut short on Wednesday," where in there are they inviting opinion? They aren't.[/quote]
That's literally true. However, a statement like "I'm going to cut my hair," although a statement, if uttered out of the blue, does invite discussion. If you disagree, then what is the purpose of the person saying it?
[quote]So, why do people feel a need to offer it?[/quote]
Imagine this. You're sitting down at coffee with a friend and you ask, "So, what's new?" She answers, "Nothing much except that I'm going to cut my hair short." You say nothing at all. I think a lot of women (and men) would probably interpret that silence as if you can't say something nice, then say nothing at all. If you do think it's a good idea, you'll probably say something like, "Really? I'll bet you'll look great." But saying nothing at all is very awkward and suggests that you disapprove.
[quote]What's worse are those who say, "Don't do it. I cut mine short and I regret it."[/quote]
I agree completely. Many women do ask, "I'm thinking of cutting my hair, but I'm not sure. What do you think?" then it's completely different, of course.
[quote]If someone posts in the Short Hair Forum, they aren't looking for someone to tell them not to cut their hair.[/quote]
It depends on the post. Many ask if they should cut it.
[quote]The only person who has a right to throw in their unsolicited opinion is the significant other.[/quote]
Opinions run both ways, positive and negative. A lot of people get their self-esteem from those compliments, but I think it's kind of sad.
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