MAJOR HAIR DILEMMA!!!

I have like really sucky hair. It hits like the bottom of my neck and has no idea what type it is. I swear its just trying to humiliate me!! : ( Its curly, yet wavy, yet pouffy, just plain ugly and unmaneagable. The texture is soft and its healthy, but very thick! I have no idea what ta do w/ it. Ive tried bout 5 straightners, tried goin w/ natural curls (looks like a big triangle on my head) and tried all the tips on getting back-from-the-beach-waves, but NONE of it works! My first day of high school is in about a week and i dunno what 2 do!! All i can do is put it in a pony or a bun!! PLEASE PLEASE help me!! (in any way!) does any1 out there have the same problem?? : (

I'd recommend growing it long. Hair that with such uneven wave can be "stretched out" with the weight of long hair. My clan-sister is like that, she has a gradient: her top layer is straight but it gradually becomes wavy, then curly as it reaches the bottom layer. But she has long hair so not many people notice the variation.

wbg14, going curly is not as easy as it might sound. It takes a lot of experimenting to get a result of beautiful curls. I had a horrid time trying to always straighten my curls and until i found the right products, when i let it curl, it was a horrible frizzy mess. But if you take the time, curly hair can be beautiful.

Curly hair is very dry, this is why many curlies experience the poof and frizzies. AnaisSatin has posted some great info about 'cones in shampoo/conditioners and regular hair products; i am just learning. Especially for curly hair, products with 'cones (silicone, Dimethecone[sp?]), it coats your hair and after added use will result in frizzy or limp, dry hair. L'oreal Fresh Vive is 'cone free and i think Dove 'poos and condi is 'cone free and very lightweight. You should also try a deep treatment weekly on your hair.

A great gel that works well on my hair is Suave (professional line) formulated like Biolage gelee. Or you could try the Biolage gelee. It provides great hold, is alcohol free and even has jojoba oil as an ingredient. Try air drying or if you must use a blow-drier, use a diffuser. I use the real bowl shaped diffuser with "fingers" to scrunch up my curls. Don't touch your hair too much or try to separate curls, this results in frizz. Same for when after your hair is dry, try not to disturb the curl pattern. if you want some more info, send me a bm.

Hi Wannabgorgeous

It just occurred to me you could try a deep oil treatment; saturating your hair in coconut oil, for example, for about 30 minutes before shampooing and conditioning. This is generally also referred to as "CWC". Curlies normally get better results when their curls are moisturized, as Frizzygurl mentioned (Thanks!).

I don't remember where I posted all the conditioner explanation, but I hope it helps you if you run across it sometime, Wbg : )

Oh, and you could also try a CO wash...? This works if you don't use the heavy oiling idea. If you need directions, be sure to post again so I know you're reading this thread.

Anais

THANKS GIRLS! I really appreciate ur help. Guess what?!? I found a GREAT straightener that straightens my hair perfectly and makes it smotth and "frizz-less"... but i'd really like to know more about getting my natural curls to shine through (cuz i think curls are gorgeous too!) ya know? could u type up that info 4 me? thanks bunches!! hehe

Hi Wannabgorgeous,

I'm glad you found something that works for you! Be sure to post your product name... maybe someone out there reading this thread has the same problem you did. It just might work for them too.
Any of the moisturizing ideas I've posted in this thread should contribute to healthy curls. Let us know how things are, every now and then : )

hugs,
Anais

Alrighty... the straightener i use is called Conaiar ceramic technology, it has 30 heat settings, and works really well, but i've got, yet another problem (my hair can never be perfect, not even 4 a second!). After like an hour (sometimes less), my hair does funky things instead of stayin all cute and straight!! Have u girls discovered any good products that hold ur hairstyle in all day. but dont make ur hair rogh or greasy? If u could let me know, that would be GREAT!!

That's a big issue with curlies.. A genetic one actually. Some hair is just plain stubborn and doesn't want to curl. The other cause is mucho damage. I can't think of any good hair-hold products, but I just don't want you to be disappointed if your hair doesn't stay straight. Good luck

Hugs,
Anais