How to make my hair behave like white hair

I'm african american and I have been very depressed lately because most of my friends are caucasian (white) and they have long, flowing hair, I was just wondering if anyone knew how I could make my hair behave like that. . . I have a perm, but my hair still wont behave like theirs. . . please tell me anything you know. . . thanks.

Exactly.

When I told my white friends that I envied them for their swinging hair, I was shocked to find that most of them HATED THEIR HAIR!

If you're really determined to make your hair lie as flat as possible, buy a professional flat iron (Folica.com has a great selection) and take good care of your hair so that it can be as healthy as possible, but until you love your hair, it won't love you, and you'll be envying someone's hair all of the time until you start.

And incidentally, while you're concerned over your friends' hair, I guarantee you someone that you don't even know about is jealous of yours. Seriously.

I had lice when I was a little kid.

yep, wat they said. like, i envy my white friend's hair all the time. its soooo long and flowing and silkey. but guess who gets the most compliments on their hair...ME! even though I hate my hair everyone wants mine cuz its "thick", i can supposedly do "anything" with it and whenever i style it it just "stays" there. now i dont exactly agree but hey, they can think watever they want to think. so i stilll do want long silkey hair but im just gonna deal with wat i got.

and if u want straighter hair save ur money and get a chi.

I didn't know hair had "behavior"? That's a new concept to me.

Just be happy with what you have. Can't put it any more plainly than that.

Holy God, who could get away with relaxing twice a week?!

you know, I used john frieda relax. that's the company that has a line of products for specific hair colors and types. I didn't invest in the conditioner but I bought everything else except the wave maker. It's a pretty good product, just expensive. The scalp moisturizer is a really good product, but there's a tiny amount in the $7 container. I found it at Walgreens in Wisconsin, but it's disappeared now. You can check online though.
And it did make my hair lighter and fluffier, but it wasn't as oily as hair grease.
good luck.

You are african american.caucasian girls hate their hair and it is so limp and bodyless unlike our hair.our hair can be long and straight but better thicker,shiner with a lye relaxer .I love my african american relaxed hair althrough i don't depend on my tub of relaxer.

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Try Phytospecific relaxer. I just used it to touch-up my roots today and it was straigth without blow drying. My hair looks really weird now because the roots are straight and the ends are poofy and frizzy.

sellout

Look, you, chill. I think that most black women go through that stage at some point in their lives. The issue is how to get over it as quickly as possible and love your own hair, and calling names is hardly productive.

haha. Well I was already relaxing my hair I might as well have got it done right. I like my natural hair I'm just super tenderheaded and have the most hair out of anyone I've ever met so it's hard to keep looking nice. The only way I can take care of my own hair is to relax it. But I do plan on stopping in like 6-9 months. And then I will have cute short natural hair and then it will grow out and I will be in pain again. and why am I the only sellout and not relaxedhairchica?

Oh, I know he wasn't talking to me...but it's rude all the same. The original poster obviously has a few issues with self-esteem...calling her a sellout isn't the way to help.

Oh sorry. But it still wasn't nice to call anyone a sellout.
When I was natural my mom combed my hair when it was wet. She used a wide toothed comb. I'm just naturally very tenderheaded. Even on my relaxed hair I'm still tenderheaded.
Thanks for trying to help though.

I had a coworker who had her hair flat ironed at a shop I think it was every one - two weeks and it was straight and bouncy just like caucasian hair. AND it was soft, shiny and healthy looking. She wrapped it at night in between appointments. I don't know if she was using any moisterizers or other products in between visits but you may want to find a shop or stylist who is bouncy-hair friendly for advice. HTH!!!

Firstly...

Straight and bouncy, healthy hair is not owned by white people. "white people's hair" is such an idiotic statement (no offense inteneded to anyone) in my opinion. White people don't have one type of hair, all white people don't have pretty hair. Hell, all white people's hair isn't even straight, many white people straighten their hair and even get relaxers/japanese straightening or whatever to alter their natural hair too.

Anyone can have long, straight, bouncy healthy hair. Some may have to work harder to have it, but it's not impossible. There are people of all races/nationalityies/colors with pretty hair.

The problem comes in when people like the original poster... it's almost as if they feel that their hair isn't as good as people with straighter hair textures. They fail to see the beauty of their own hair... not only is your hair beautiful whan it's healthy and straightened out, it's beautiful when it's healthy and in it's natural state as well.

Racism never fails to disappoint me.

This last attack applies as much to me as it does to the original poster. This will be the second board I have left because of this kind of racism. So to all of you who think that everyone should stop styling their hair and just

My reply was not negative. Simply put, I believe that people, especially black people have this warped self-image.... a sort of "white is right" mentality. I guess this mentality is a product of racism, but I am not being racist. I'm against racism and all of the crap that goes with it. The good hair/bad hair debate, the what color is barbie debate, the lightskin/darkskin debate... beauty has many forms and not one is better than the other. It almost seems to be a general concensus that typical black features are ugly while typical white features are pretty... that is what disgusts me.

Please excuse any mispells, I am a horrible speller.

It's not even funny that ALL other racial groups get along and band together to lift themselves up. Only blacks rip each other apart. It's f*cking sickening ...Martin Luther King, Jr and Malcom X are turmning in their graves right now. Slaves didn't die learning how to read and write for us to do this to one another.

***** shutup every race rips their own if they deserve it, when she said she wanted white hair i was offended because she simply put it as black people hair is ugly

You have no call to be offended. Perhaps she's like me, someone who had primarily white friends due to the neighborhood she lived in and wished that her hair was more like theirs. Or maybe she doesn't know how to manage her African-American hair as is and wants it to be easier to comb or style, like her friends' hair seems to be. But that's certainly no reason for you to call her a sellout.

thats no excuse for her to insult the entire black race as she clearly shows shes ashamed of being black

I'm not ashamed of being black, nor am I trying to demean my race. I simply A) have a mother who has NO idea what to do with my hair, and therefore i have no idea how to handle it B) live in the suburbs with almost nothing but white people who can't help me either, and C) I'm only 13 and haven't had much time to learn 2 deal with it, especially since it's been in braids most of my life. Rather than insulting both me and my question, why not help me? My hair is down 2 my shoulders and I would truly appreciate any styling tips.(not dreads)

Shadylady, the best advice I can give you is to go to a black hairdresser. Whether you're black or mixed, they should be able to help you make your hair do whatever it is you're wanting it to do. I suspect, though, for the 'flowing' look you're going to need a serious flat iron like a Chi Turbo or a Wigo.

I'm mixed race myself and I understand the hair thing. Actually, mine is in between. It's strong, moderately thick and wavy/curly. It straightens rather easily with a brush and a hair dryer then a pass from a hot comb(my arms get tired by the end, though).

My older cousin that did my hair as a child is puerto rican and black, and what she does to her hair is called "training" it. She dries it with the dryer with the comb attachment, presses it and then wraps it at night. It is very straight and has great body. She takes care of it very well, which is what you want to do if you wish to have healthy hair, no matter what your background is. Have someone take you to get it professionally done every 6-8 weeks if you have it relaxed and maybe every 4 weeks if you get it hotcombed. Make sure that you wrap it every night before you go to bed (and in the shower). As you get older, you will be able to take care of it yourself more and more, even relaxing/hotcombing it yourself.

Feel free to email me if you need anything.

P.S. Walmart actually has a GREAT electric hotcomb that I use. Heats up fast, you can control the heat. It was around $15 and you can use it for touchups. You also might consider the Japanese straightening. My friend's daughter is mixed and had it done. His wife is black and she couldn't work with her hair, either. I don't do it because I like the natural wavy curls I have. Easy in the summer to wash and go. But other than summer, straight for me...